Making friends can be tricky whether you live in NYC, Hong Kong, or Paris. Yet, there are unique challenges that come with living in a small town like Mannford, Oklahoma. If you haven’t grown up in the same community or gone to school with the same people your entire life, finding where to get plugged in can feel daunting.

However, as Christians, we are called to seek out meaningful relationships that encourage and uplift us in our faith. The good news is that the Bible offers wisdom on forming strong, Christ-centered friendships, and practical ways exist to put that wisdom into action.

Biblical foundations for friendship

Friendship is a gift from God, and the Bible is full of guidance on how to build meaningful relationships. Proverbs 17:17 reminds us, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.” True friendship is built on love, consistency, and support through life’s ups and downs.

In Ecclesiastes 4:9-10, we are encouraged by the wisdom that “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Community and companionship are part of God’s design for us, and forming friendships is a way to reflect His love and care for others.

Practical ways to build friendships in a small community

Get involved in your local church

The most natural place to find like-minded friends who share your values and faith is through your church. Join a Bible study, attend fellowship gatherings, and seek service opportunities within the congregation. Mannford Church of Christ offers various ways to connect with others through small groups, Sunday school, or church-sponsored events.

Serve your community

Volunteering is a powerful way to meet new people and form friendships while making a positive impact. Consider helping with local outreach programs, food pantries, or church mission efforts. Galatians 5:13 reminds us, “Serve one another humbly in love.” When we serve together, we naturally build bonds with those who share our passion for helping others.

Attend local events and gatherings

Small towns often have community events like fairs, farmers’ markets, and festivals. These gatherings provide a great chance to meet others and strike up conversations. Look on local social media pages or bulletin boards for upcoming events.

Be intentional

Friendships don’t always happen overnight. Sometimes, it takes effort to step outside of your comfort zone and introduce yourself to new people. Invite someone from church for coffee, join a local book club, or start a hobby group. Proverbs 18:24 says, “A man who has friends must himself be friendly.” Taking the initiative can lead to meaningful connections.

Join a recreational hobby group

There are many ways to find people with shared interests, from hiking clubs to quilting groups. If you’re unsure where to start, ask around at church or look for Facebook groups dedicated to local activities. Engaging in shared activities naturally fosters relationships.

Stay open and patient

Building strong friendships takes time. Not every interaction will lead to a deep connection, but consistent effort will lead to meaningful relationships. Trust in God’s timing, and remember Proverbs 27:17: “As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.” Surround yourself with people who encourage and strengthen your faith.

Friendship as a reflection of Christ

Ultimately, our friendships should reflect Christ’s love. John 15:12 tells us, “My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” Being kind, intentional, and open-hearted can create a strong community of faith-filled friendships. Whether you are new to the area or have lived here your whole life, there is always an opportunity to connect, grow, and share life with others.

If you’re looking for a place to start, we invite you to join us at Mannford Church of Christ, where you’ll find a welcoming community eager to grow in faith and friendship together.